If there is no abuse, there is nothing you can’t overcome in marriage-Omotola

 Omotola Jalade-Ekehinde recently celebrated her 20th wedding
anniversary.In an interview with The Nation, she opens up on the secret
of her marriage,aging and beauty..

On being married for 20 years

It’s just been fun. I’m married to my friend and should I say, my
destiny supporter. There’s no relationship without its challenge. When
people hear that we are celebrated twenty years, they think we must be
really without stress or anything, but I just want to let people know
that if you are determined to do it in life, if you are determined to
make it, you will make it. You have troubles in life generally anyway;
either with your parents, or with your siblings.

So it’s just like that. It’s a normal thing. Don’t use any
opportunity or any quarrel in a relationship with your spouse to justify
the fact that everybody says marriage is hard. It’s not any harder, I
think, than any other relationship you’ve had in life, maybe with your
business partners or with your siblings. I understand that there are
some marriages that have more challenges than others. If there is abuse
involved, I think you should find your way out quickly. But if there is
no abuse, then there is nothing you cannot overcome. Given that, I have
had a very wonderful time with my spouse. We’ve just been friends.
That’s what matters most.

 On having grey hair

Well, I’m 38 years old so I’m not scared. But even if I was 51,
that’s not the point. I’m growing younger if you actually think about
it. Even babies these days have grey hair. Anyways, that’s not the
point. The point is, in life, I think we should all embrace who we are.
And I think when people are sufficient or feel sufficient in life, and
you feel like you’re achieving, you really wouldn’t be afraid of age.

I think people are afraid to age when they actually look at where
they are in life and feel like they’ve not achieved much. They feel like
time is running by. I think that’s actually the reason why people are
afraid of aging if you really go into it. But if you are contented in
life and know that all fingers are not equal and you are where you are
meant to be, because you could actually be six feet below. That you’re
alive and well in itself is a reason to celebrate age. I don’t think
that’s a reason why not.

  On her definition of beauty 

I think beauty, first and foremost, is in the confidence. If you are a
confident woman and you understand your self-worth, I think you are
beautiful. That is why sometimes you see some girls that you think,
visually, in your own definition, are not aesthetically beautiful.

But any time they walk into a room, everybody turns. And you wonder
why everybody is looking at that girl. She’s not even that fine. If you
get it together, she is a confident woman. So beauty for a woman, even
for men but especially for women, is knowing your self-worth,
understanding yourself, understanding your body and working with what
you have. Most women don’t have everything. Even I don’t have everything
but there are things that you have, so work with what you have.

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