Daddy Freeze shares his thoughts on pastor Adeboye’s advice on marriage

The popular OAP has given his opinion on pastor Adeboye’s advice on
marriage .While he supported the fact a spouse should be able to pray
for one hour,he disagreed with cooking as a criteria for marrying a
woman…He wrote

This week, I got so many emails and DMs asking for my opinion on
Pastor Adeoye’s message about marrying a woman who cant cook etc. This,
being a spiritual issue cannot be tackled with my usual ‘fayose’
approach, as I needed to hear from God first.
There were four main issues raised and I will try my best to address
all. I wasn’t in the service and I am relying on the emails and DMs as a
point of reference.

The only part of the message I agree 100% with, is that no one should
marry a man or woman who can’t pray for 1 hour straight.

The bible
instructs us in the book of 1st Thessalonians chapter 5 verse 17 to
“pray without ceasing”. In as much as we like to operate under the
assumption that we control our own lives, in my opinion, the greatest
part of our lives is controlled by external forces. Let’s take the
instance of former president Olusegun Obasanjo who was a free man in
1996, by 1997 he was imprisoned for treason, by 1998 he was released
from prison after the sudden death of Abacha and by 1999 he was
president of the federal Republic of Nigeria. If in 1996, Obasanjo had
known he was going to be in prison the following year, he probably would
have gone to sew prison uniform, awaiting his conviction. Also if in
1997, with a life sentence hanging around his neck, he had known that in
a little over a year he would become president, he would have made
adequate preparations, but guess what? Life happens. I remember having a
chat over drinks with my boss Mr Moussalli, who told me that he used to
stay in Nice, when Lebanon was being bombed because it was safe and
calm. Who would ever have guessed that Nice itself was going to be be
the scene of a gruesome terrorist attack about a month ago? So wisdom
doesn’t guarantee safety and strength doesn’t guarantee bread.
(Ecclesiastes 9:11) Even the strongest man and the richest man in the
world put together cannot control a hurricane.

“When life happens during your race, you will need a sufficient amount of grace!”~FRZ
This Grace can only be received through ceaseless prayer!

Talking about marrying a woman that cannot cook is another kettle of
fish entirely, as I do not see why this is a criteria for marriage in
2016. If your woman can’t cook you have many options which include
teaching her, hiring a cook, cooking your own meals or eating out and
each has its own distinct and enjoyable flavour. Imagine serving your
woman a meal in bed on a Saturday morning, she would gladly retaliate
with a favor ‘wink’.

About marrying a man that has a job I can’t disagree more, especially
coming from a man of God who is supposed to preach faith and grace as
against logic. With the present state of the Nigerian economy, in my own
opinion, at least 10% percent of couples will experience job losses
within one week of marriage, considering the way companies are laying
off staff.

A friend of mine lost his job the 3rd day after his wedding,
and another friend lost his job 2 days before his first son was born. So
why place so much emphasis on having a job, when there is hardly any
job security in Nigeria, and you could lose that job in a heartbeat! So
the wife of my friend who lost his job 3 days after their wedding should
file for a divorce?

Another thing I heard that Daddy allegedly said was that anyone who
wanted sex everyday should come for deliverance. It’s much easier for a
man in his 70s to preach this, and as I turned 40 this year it’s a bit
easier for me to understand. However I would have walked out on anyone
trying to preach this to me at 31 as it meant setting myself up for
fornication since my woman would probably say “Daddy said it’s not food
so its not everyday”
The bible is very clear on this, as it states in the book of 1st Corinthians chapter 7 verse 4, that “The
wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her
husband. In the same way, the husband doesn’t have authority over his
own body but yields it to his wife”

Therefore, refusing your spouse sex is dangerous and is not supported
by God, as it can lead to adultery which has more serious consequences
than daily sex. I hear that there are some tribes in Nigeria that if you
marry from, and cannot satisfy daily, you dig the grave of that union
with your own hands.

Everyone is physically different, therefore our needs for sex differ.
In my humble opinion, sexual compatibility is of a far greater relevance to a successful marriage than sexual frequency.

my advice is; choose your spouse wisely, while in constant prayer, as
being single is miles better than being in a bad marriage! ~FRZ

1 Comment

  1. Oluwafisayo

    August 13, 2016 at 4:48 pm

    Daddy Freeze making rare sense… It is well 7c112097

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